One of the worst feelings in the world is when you suspect your partner is being unfaithful. Human intuition is a powerful thing, and chances are good that if you sense your husband or wife has taken on a lover, they have. There are some clear warning signs of spousal infidelity that should never be ignored. If you see any of these behaviors in your partner, further investigation may indeed reveal an adulterous affair.
Inattentiveness is one of the signs of spousal infidelity that is often overlooked or easily explained. If your husband or wife seems indifferent, or not as engaged with you, they may blame it on work. Many people who have a lover have difficulty focusing on anything but them. Your spouse may seem less interested in planning things like birthday parties or family outings.
Absence from family vacations is another sign of a cheating spouse. If you've always taken your vacations together, and your spouse suddenly has a work related excuse not to attend, this could mean they are planning on spending time with their lover. In this case, be insistent on them coming along and gauge their reaction. If they become overly angry, something just isn't adding up.
Your spouse's reaction to a general discussion on infidelity can be very telling. People who are being unfaithful will often get very judgmental when talking about affairs. If you bring up a friend or acquaintance that has been cheated on and your wife or husband looks uncomfortable or tries to change the subject, they are sending out a clue. They may also take the side of the adulterous spouse and claim that they can understand how the affair happened.
One of the subtle signs of spousal infidelity involves your husband's or wife's reaction to an attractive person. If your husband has always made an effort to look at pretty girls who walk by, or if your wife comments on the handsome men she sees, and that suddenly stops, there's a reason behind it. Often, when a person has someone new in their life they lose all interest in anyone else. Pay close attention to how your spouse reacts around someone attractive of the opposite sex.
Laziness can be another clue that your spouse isn't as interested or invested in your marriage or family life. Some individuals who are having extramarital affairs become less interested in their day-to-day lives. They let small things slide including household chores. If this is happening in your home, it might be because another person has stolen your spouse's attention.
Realizing that your spouse may be involved with another person is a difficult thing. Chances are good that if you suspect your husband or wife is cheating, they are. Look for the warning signs of spousal infidelity in your relationship and be certain to gather some concrete proof of the affair before you confront them.
