Ahh relationships, if they were so easy then Jen & Brad would never have broken up and Britney Spears would be a happy loving housewife. But alas the fragile bonds of relationships can be broken and when they do you might start thinking about ways to get back at your ex.
When break ups occur it’s usually a pretty nerve wracking, frustrating, stressful and not to mention emotional time. It’s no wonder you want to get back at your ex! However did you know that some of best ways that you can actually get back at them will not only put them in an interesting situation, but also might even repair your relationship as they will begin to think about how special you were to them.
So while this article could be about getting back AT them, it could also help you to get back WITH your ex as well!
(1) Be Strong & Confident
Now is not the time to be needy and clingy. So even if you are feeling desperate or lonely you can’t let them know it. You need to act like you are doing just fine without them. If you are strong and act confident, as if you have moved on with your life then they will likely realize how much they miss you and want you back.
(2) Cut all Communication
This will help not only you become stronger (see tip 1) but will allow your ex time to stew since they are not hearing from you and will be wondering what you are doing. By taking this break from your ex you will actually make them think about you more and remember how valuable the relationship was. So if you did decide that you wanted to rekindle the relationship this is a very powerful strategy.
(3) Go with the Flow & Be Flexible
If they want to move out – let them. If they want to pick up their things at a certain date or time – let them. By being flexible and agreeable it will drive them crazy (since they are probably expecting you to fight with them on every little issue) and it will surprise and confuse them to see this side of you. This will again have them start thinking about you or at least start to build the lines of communication again.
(4) Party like it’s 1999
Or whatever the cool year is these days. By going out and enjoying yourself it will not only be therapeutic for you (this is no time to be alone) but it will also show your ex what a catch that they lost.
Now I feel I need to add a disclaimer here, while you should be getting out of the house and developing a larger group of friends away from your ex, I don’t recommend dating or hooking up with someone of the opposite sex as that will only hurt you and the other person involved and not your ex. And if you did decide to get back with your ex later on then it could hurt your chances. Remember when Ross slept with that office copy girl when he and Rachel were ‘on a break?’ Not good.
(5) Rediscover You
Do you remember what you were like before the relationship? What things were you into? What did you like to do? This time is a great time to focus solely on you and not what you were like in the relationship. Once your ex sees your new lease on life they might just want to jump back in!
